Monday, November 28, 2011

Do Realize

Kau bukan milikku

Dan aku memang penakut
Mengakui cinta kepadamu
Seribu kali ku cuba ucapkan
Bila bersamamu
Kau bukan milikku
Dan engkau pun tahu
Kau bukan milikku

Penakut - Yuna

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Praise

Bole beritahu saya siapa tak bangga bila dipuji begini.....


 atau begini....


lagi-lagi ini....


apatah lagi ini....  



Tapi tue semua bukan isu disini.. Semua diatas hanyalah contoh semata-mata tanpa nawaitu terselindung. *jujur

I believe, it's a human nature; we love to hear good thing about us. It makes us feel good, rite?  And in fact, compliment could works to motivate someone.  Indirectly, it brings positive elements in our day / life which is a good thing for everyone to practice.  Yet, you need to know that praise can be classified into three types;

  • Praise to ingratiate
  • Just lip service or;
  • Expression of admiration

p/s: Namun, saya percaya semua pujian diatas adalah ikhlas. tehee~ =DD

Penerimaan pujian bagi setiap individu adalah berbeza walaupun secara general kita semua suka dipuji. Mungkin bagi sesetengah orang cuma akan membalas pujian dgn snyuman kecil (tapi dlm hati bagai nk meletup dada menahan bangga), mungkin bagi orang lain, akan teruja tahap maksima bila dipuji sehingga melalukan reaksi pelik tanpa sedar (e.g.: tersengih sorang2 walaupun pujian diberi 3jam yg lepas), dan ada jugak yang akan membalas pujian dengan rasa bangga dan takbur, "yes, i know i'm pretty. tell me something dat i don't know!" pfffft.

Dan penerimaan saya terhadap pujian is slightly different. Not saying dat I don't like it but am simply not believe in it. I don't believe when people say I'm pretty, smart, etc etc etc because I know my weaknesses and I tend to think dat people say those things just to please me. In the other hand, it shows that am a low self-esteem person. Believe me.

On top of dat, I'm practice different way in terms of giving praise to people. I am normally praise someone in front others instead of directly to that person. This probably by my mum's upbringing. I don't know about your childhood. But mine, Mama won't say good thing about me if she talked with neighbor. All I can hear was,
"Syuhada memang malas baca buku" 
................
"Syuhada tak penah pown wt keja uma"
................ 
"Syuhada mmg kuat tgk tv"
............... 
yadayadayadayada...

All are the negative ones. Kecik hati ogey. So, one day I decided to ask Mama. Why she needs to say the bad things about me to neighbor? It's not healthy especially when I can hear all that. It make me feels, "aku x ckup bagus kew?" "aku x ckup rajin kew?" "result aku x ckup bagus kew nk ckp aku malas baca buku?" You know, that kind of feelings. sigh.

So yes, I asked her. Mama ckp, die xnk jd mcm "masuk bakul, angkat sendiri" Mama tak nak memuji-muji anak die dpn orang sedangkan Mama je rasa anak Mama bagus tapi Mama tak tahu macam mana org nilai anak Mama. Biar Mama ckp akak tak bagus, tapi orang nmpk sebaliknya.

Contohnya begini; "Yati selalu ckp anak die malas baca buku tp exam selalu dapat nombor 1."
Mama taknak jadi begini, "Yati tak habis-habis puji anak dara die sorg tue, padahal masak pown tak pandai"  

You got what I mean?

But personally, there's no wrong if you wanna praise your own kids/partner/friends/whoever just to motivate them to be better.  They need it sometimes. Tapi janganlah selalu cos it might put them in a comfort zone. Setiap benda yg kita buat mesti berpada-pada. Sebab pujian yg berlebihan dan tak sepatutnya memuji akan melahirkan perasaan 'ujub (bangga diri).

Nabi s.a.w. penah menegur seorang Sahabat kerana memuji Sahabat yang lain secara langsung:

قطعت عنق صاحبك

  “Kamu telah memenggal leher temanmu.” (HR. Al-Bukhari dan Muslim, dari Abu Bakar ra.)

Senada dgn hadith tersebut, Ali ra berkata dalam ungkapan hikmahnya,
"Kalau ada yang memuji kamu dihadapanmu, akan lebih baik bila kamu melumuri mulutnya dengan debu, daripada kamu terbuai oleh pujiannya."

I admit there are few people yg terasa hati dgn saya bile saya tak pernah nk puji depan-depan. But they have no idea that I always say good things about them in front others. That's how I appreciate and value them. As a matter of fact, I don't need people to say all the sweet / nice things right in front of me tp ble kt belakang segala aib, buruk, cacat-cela sume ko jaja dekat owg. That is so plastic and not acceptable!

Each and every single of us has our own flaws. We can never be perfect. Dan sesungguhnya, segala puji-pujian hanya kepada Allah s.w.t.

Salam.


Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Setiakah?


Like seriously, I look terribly chubby!

DAMMIT!!


p/s: Love when people can spell my name correctly. Terima kasih! =)



Sunday, November 13, 2011

Ironic


"You chase someone who's running from you.. 
And you run from someone who's chasing you..."



p/s: It just a random thought. 


Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Jangan Pandang Cermin

During last Eid al-Adha, I stayed in my Uncle's for two days. Normal routine that we always do when gather with cousins is we're gonna have gossip-girl-long-chat til the dawn broke. So this time, only adik Fiqa and I were on the mode. The gossip-girl-chat start with typical topic / issue = love + boyfriend(s) tehehee~ =DD Continue to the next topic, then jump to another topic and lasted to horror/scary story (sgt cliche bukan?) =p

As she told me lots of her experiences stumbled upon things (the ghost-like thingy), am so interested to know the most on "tak elok tengok cermin waktu malam." I asked her, why we can't look at a mirror at night? Instead of replied me "sebab tak elok la", she asked me,

"Penah tak rasa bila tengok cermin waktu malam, muka kita macam cantik je?...."

That is her question.

And my respond,
"Ohhh shit!"

One of the pictures taken at night.
(yes, in front of the mirror)

Is it because of the mirror??
*if you know what I mean. 
=p

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Graduasi

Just to share that I'm officially graduated on last 25th October. (Tapi baru skarg nk post. Apakah?) As usual mmg agak lems sket dlm mengupdate blog kebelakangan nie. *mintak ampun. 

Alhamdulillah, saya telah berjaya menamatkan pelajaran tanpa sebarang repeat paper mahupun extend. *maaf klaw ada yg trase. teheheee~ (^_^)v Thanks to all lecturers, friends and of course scandals parents yg dicintai for their support. Financial support from parents tue paling penting, if x ckup mmg agak t'tekan nk menghabiskan pelajaran. ngehngeh~ Ogey, kidding. 

So, basically I've joined the programme of study in the Faculty of Communication and Media Studies (UiTM) and been awarded the degree of Bachelor of Mass Communication (Hons) major in Advertising. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. I'm proud to be UiTM product n yeah, UiTM dihatiku (lagu tema UiTM) hehe.. 

I'm a bit sad n not really so-into-the-graduation-day cos my parents weren't there for me. They left for Hajj the day before my graduation day. Sedih kot. Tapi redha dan pasrah sbb diorg pegi utk menunaikan ibadah kn. Bukan suka-suka. Thank God my younger brother was there. Klaw x, mmg nangis sorg2. huuuu~ Herewith, only 2 pictures I have. The rest still waiting from my photographer. No worries, once I got it from him, will share with you guys. xo! 

In hall waiting for VIPs
Flowers from my photographer (on d left side) and lovely mama (on the right side).
She bought the flowers before she left. =))